Observe the
people around you at home and at work and ask yourself are your relationships
with each of these people great, fine or terrible. And if it’s not that great,
do you do some things to improve it? All relationships: romantic, platonic or
professional, have ups and downs. Fortunately, you can fix relational problems
even with the simplest techniques.
1.
Talk something positive before
negative
Ever noticed
when you share to your partner your day’s frustrations when you get home from
work, the conversation becomes depressing and it may lead to a quarrel between
the two of you. And if this happens a lot then you might build a problematic
relationship. Although it’s healthy to talk about problems, why not start
greeting your husband or wife when you get home and talk something positive
first. It may be a funny anecdotal that happened at work or just tell that you
miss him or her. Once you and your partner’s mood become light, then talking
about problems after won’t be so depressing.
2.
Value your rights and others
It’s no
picnic when you have a co-worker or anyone that doesn’t value you as a person
with feelings and rights. If you are not obligated to see him or her every day,
then try to avoid the person. If you can’t because it’s part of your work or
schooling (or, gasp, it’s someone you live with) you need to stand up for
yourself. Do it in a firm, civil way that can get your feelings straight and
make the other person understand. With this, he or she will change his
perspective of you as a weak person to a strong one.
3.
Truly connect with your friends
Ever had a
friend that expects you to talk or text with him or her daily? It may seem
normal but some people may find it a hassle, not to mention a lot of pressure.
Your friend may have become attention-demanding because you don’t really focus
him/her at the time when you two are hanging out. Nowadays, people are so
wrapped up with their mobile phones that they’re not paying attention to their
friends who are in front of them all the time. Always have serious one-on-one
time with pals on weekends and maybe they’ll leave you alone on weekdays, the
time when you need to focus on other important things.
